How to get rid of imposter syndrome in 3 steps

I know how difficult it can be to try and act like you care.

Have you ever been in a situation where you feel like you just don’t belong?

Like you’re just in a completely different world or level in your life compared to the people around you?

You feel that way because you don’t have enough knowledge!

I’ve been there and found a way to get rid of that feeling of being an imposter.

Step 1) Take inventory of who you are and what you know

Step 2) Position yourself in conversation

Step 3) Chime in when you have something to say

Here, let me explain

Explanation 1) It all starts before you even get into a situation by taking inventory. If you know you’re going to be in a possible foreign environment, do some research on where you’re going and the type of person that will be there.

Why?

You will be better suited to connect with those individuals because you took it upon yourself to learn their language.

The thing is, you cannot change people to make life easier. It's always easier to change yourself to fit the situation depending on what it is of course. That’s what makes life easier and you that much better.

I heard Russ the rapper say one time in an interview to remember the 5 P’s: Proper Preparation Prevents Poor Performance.

Explanation 2) After you’ve taken inventory and learned a little bit, you’re now in the environment that you studied. Now, that you’re here you must use what you know and leverage what you don’t to adapt to this environment.

How?

Let people talk. The most comfortable or in control people usually speak first and the nervous or less confident people speak last or not at all. (Theirs always an exception.)

Once the conversation is flowing, be aware because this is where you gain your information and position your interest.

Explanation 3) Now bring it all together. Once you hear a topic that you are an expert in or know enough general knowledge about, speak on it. If you’re having trouble catching the gist of the conversation, ask a question. (A genuine one)

A major key to speaking with authority is to know what you're talking about and to say it with complete confidence.

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While in these environments, you can vacillate between the information gathering and chime in stages to create effects and dialogue.

Being eager to learn or chime into a conversation in itself shows interest. It also keeps you socially adept to the climate of different areas.

I would suggest getting out of your comfort zone more often so you won’t feel like an imposter, maybe you’ll find your tribe.

Thanks for reading, Have an amazing week!