Become the best option

I remember when I was a teenager and I was not getting the attention I was looking for from the people I loved.

I wanted to be seen more than anything else.

I wanted to become a person that people loved to listen to and follow.

I wanted to be the best version of myself so that I could be chosen for once.

It wasn't until I chose myself that my life turned around.

It was when I put myself first that I was able to gain what I was looking to gain.

The roles had reversed and for once, instead of me having to prove my worth to people, people had to prove their worth to me.

I went from the hunted to the hunter but only when I broke the limiting beliefs that were ingrained into my mind.

I was my own worst enemy.

Knowing who I wanted to be, the vision was clear and nothing could stop me from changing my belief system.

I figured if I had used my mind to get into this predicament, I could use it to get out with a few little tweaks.

Not to downplay the simplicity of this, it consumed my life, change that is. It consumed every waking moment of my life because I saw outside of the mental box that I was stuck in and saw it with immense clarity.

I put together a plan to identify my limiting beliefs by writing in my journal every morning and evening to see what occupied my mind daily.

After some time, I had an idea of what needed to change so I began taking action.

I went back to the basics.

I woke up early and spent time in solitude reading to fill my mind and writing to express/ construct and deconstruct my beliefs about myself and the world.

Next, I would take accountability for everything that happened in my life and reframe it to life happening “for me”, not “to me'“.

This is just a small example of the many mindset tweaks that I underwent to change my mind about life to live a life worth living.

Last, I cut out loser friends and people who did not serve me.

Why?

What does that mean?

The people that you surround yourself with impact who you are and what you become. Filter out the positive vs the negative influences will simplify your life as you elevate.

Since you’re now on the path of self-actualization, you now need to monitor who you have in your corner and only select quality people to interact with if you’re considering them for your inner circle.

The main reason this is a big deal is that people’s thoughts and beliefs whether they be limiting or not have the ability to influence you at some point. So by being selective, you can keep your inner dialogue on lock.

By keeping this inner dialogue on lock, you can now add value to it by the content you consume.

For example, say that you’ve followed the steps of

1) Gaining solitude in the morning

2) Reading and writing to reframe your mind

3) Curating your friend circle to your liking/benefit

By following these 3 simple steps, you’ll see how much and how quickly you get to know yourself, and the quality of your thoughts will be vibrant and louder than ever.

So now you’ll see the major impact of the content you consume because you’re now aware of the information you consume.

Not only that, you’ll see the value of the quality of your thoughts when you fill your mind with knowledge and the company of good conversation.

Napoleon Hill calls it the mastermind alliance.

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